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Ask and ye shall receive. Video rant it is then, this time on confidence. Hope you like, shout at me if you don’t, woo!

-Janek ^_^

To anyone struggling with their mental health:

lifeaccordingtohan:

-You do not need to be sicker to get help.
- You do not need to self harm or starve yourself to ‘prove’ that you’re struggling.
- You deserve help, you are worth it.

If you’re struggling, you deserve to get help. No ifs. No buts!

wasblind-butnowisee:

If you have an eating disorder, are in recovery, had an eating disorder, struggled with eating ever, and/or are human, and you’re eating, you’re doing the right thing. Congratulations. Kudos to you.

And if anyone tells you otherwise, you have full permission from me to punch their lights out.

PREACH :D

mychemicalrecovering:

why has everyone started fucking reblogging work out tips? My dash was just filled with how to burn X in X time and how to do X to make your body look like this! *insert image of athlete*
It’s not healthy when you’re still in recovery to be doing that, I find it extremely disordered if i’m honest. Especially when you’re mind isnt in the right place. 

^THIS^

It’s not cool kids, sure, maybe you’re able to cope with it yourself, but I can assure you that plenty of your followers will not be. Let’s be setting a positive example here, right?

Not that I don't absolutely ADORE your rants, but I wouldn't mind a video every now and again. I'd love to hear you talk!

As you wish; next rant will be as a video. Thanks for the feedback :) 

That Icky Love Thing

Right then ladies and gentlemen, so today I’m going to be talking about love and its importance to recovery.
Now, there are several different forms of love, so be aware that I’m not just talking about the romantic sort of love. I’m well aware that plenty of folks just plain don’t feel romantic love, so whilst that type of love will be mentioned, it’s not by any means the be all and end all of the term.
When I say love here, I’m referring to any particularly strong emotional attachment.
So what does that have to do with recovery? Evvverything.
In my opinion, you have to have love for something, if you are to have any hope of recovery. There, I said it. I know that this may not be the most popular opinion in the universe, but that’s what I have experienced, it’s what helped bring me to the stage I am today, sorry if it doesn’t fit your philosophy.Love gives you something to fight for when sense fails you. When you can’t justify eating for the sake of eating, you can always eat for love, because love doesn’t need sense. I know that I had many many occasions where the logic behind eating simply didn’t make enough of a difference, the knowledge that I ‘should eat’ wasn’t enough for me to want to act, because everything just hurt too much. You wanna know what my saving grace was? You’ll love this: it was Pokemon.
Not like that you dirty minded little blogger you.
No, I had Pokemon Sapphire on my Gameboy Advance, and oh my goodness but did I love those little creatures.
To date, that’s the only Pokemon game in which I caught ‘em all, I actually properly finished the game. Weekends were my allotted playing time, and each one was spent facing the elite four time and time again to help level up all my little baby monsters. Harvey the Blaziken and Quint the Kyogre were the best friends I could ask for, and I felt like I owed them for all the work they had done battling for me. And yeah, this sounds a little bit on the crazy side, but I’m sure you can understand that I was well beyond caring about sticking within the realms of sanity. The end result was that I promised myself that I would live through another week so that I could carry on playing. I learned the main lesson behind the games, the one which I chose to take and adopt as my url interestingly enough. Be the best that you can be.
So that’s what I’m trying to pass on today: find something that makes you want to be the best that you can be and hold onto it. And no, it doesn’t need to be Pokemon. Totally not necessary. My obvious recommendation would be an actual person. Could be a romantic partner, absolutely, but also family members, pets, friends, anybody. Hey, you yourself would be ideal, but I realise that’s fairly unlikely. No matter who you are or at what stage of life you are, I believe that there is always going to be something or something out there that makes you want to strive to be better, to get fixed, to make the most of your life. That, kids, is love, and I heartily suggest you follow that feeling. Even if, no wait, especially if it’s scary.
It will make all the difference, trust me.
I’m off now, so as always, take care of yourself and be the best that you can be. Ooh, as a quick side-note, I was thinking about maybe instead of having these big-ass text posts, just taking the contents and making videos out of them to post on here. Would you prefer to see/hear my delightful little rants or should I just stick with the text-based form?
Your call, just drop me a message letting me know, as well as about anything else whatsoever. Go for it :)
Until next time,
-Janek

How old r u?

Anonymous

I’m 19, twenty in November :)

Apr 7

recovering-please-wait:

Reblog this if you suffer from anorexia and haven’t been an inpatient.

Apr 5

Forgiveness, Friends and Starting Over

I love triple-barrel post titles. Pretty sure it’s because they remind me of the Ally’s World books, oh nostalgia, you so silly. High fives all round to anybody who knows what I’m on about!

Anyway, time to get to it. Eating disorders are clever little beggars. Well, not clever really. Not intelligent. Cunning maybe, sly, insidious, these are better words to describe it. It does everything it can to break you down, piece by piece, removing everything about you and around you that you love. A big part of this comes in destroying your relationships with other people. I say this frequently: the disorder will move to isolate you from those around you who could help, cutting you off and making you feel alone in the world. This is when you are at your weakest, most vulnerable to further deterioration. Alone is the most dangerous state you can be in. You need all the help, all the friends, that you can get. Now tell me, how many of these things have you heard yourself say to the people close to you:

  • I can’t eat if you aren’t eating as well
  • You’re making me feel fat
  • It’s not fair that you’re eating X when I have to eat Y
  • I HATE HOW YOU ALWAYS TRIGGER ME

And so on, I’m sure that you’re very familiar with all these phrases and more. And guess what? Every time you say something like that, it pushes that person a little bit further away, makes them want to care a little bit less. If you aren’t careful, you will turn into a horrifying lying, manipulative shell of a person, not the friend you once were. And wonderful as your understanding as your friends might be, there is only so long that a person can put up with that kind of treatment. It doesn’t mean that they hate you, it means that they hate the disorder that has taken temporary control of your mind. When you are playing host to a disease in your mind, your actions are not one hundred percent your fault. Yes, you can help it up to a point, but these are mental disorders that we’re dealing with, not weight disorders, Your thoughts are not always your own. 

So talk to your friends, be open and honest with them about what is going on in your head. And be prepared to do a good bit of grovelling when you mess up. Forgiveness may not come easily or at all, but you should really try. I know that I wish I had tried harder to reconnect with my friends; please don’t make my mistakes

When you are better, there will still be work to do. Starting recovery provides you with a blank canvas, a chance to re-write your personality. You can be whoever you want to be. So make that person a good person, a truthful, caring, healthy person. 

That’s it for today, kids. And hey, a quick shout out to the butt-load of new followers that have come on board in this last week. Welcome to the family ladies and gents! As always, drop me a line if you ever want advice, help, or just to talk. I’m here for y’all. Look after yourself, be the best that you can be. Until next time,

Janek

Apr 4
iwillfightbetter:

Truthful words.  Challenging developments. Trying to remember of my eating disorder is unhappy I’m doing stuff right. #edrecovery #recovery #ednos #ednosrecovery #foodismedicine #evolvedeating #healing #bekindtoyourself #hope #calories #weight #guilt #bingeeatingdisorder #bingeeating #eatingdisorder #progress

iwillfightbetter:

Truthful words.
Challenging developments. Trying to remember of my eating disorder is unhappy I’m doing stuff right. #edrecovery #recovery #ednos #ednosrecovery #foodismedicine #evolvedeating #healing #bekindtoyourself #hope #calories #weight #guilt #bingeeatingdisorder #bingeeating #eatingdisorder #progress